Hello, I am new here.
I am undiagnosed but have been suggested as probably being on the spectrum by my therapist. So I thought maybe this could be a good place to explore this issue I’ve noticed recently.
I mean stuff like personal appearance? It’s fine, nobody will say anything negative and I know that, but thinking about changing my beard style or removing it all together or I’m a little bored with some of my clothing. But thinking about doing something about it, I just know everyone will have to address it and ask the same questions or make the same comments about it and, I don’t know, like feel mentally exhausted just thinking about it.
Does anyone else experience this? It feels incredibly silly and annoying.
YES I GET THIS SO BAD! I’ve never heard anyone else address it and had no idea if it had anything to do with autism. I hate people pointing out that my appearance has changed unless I’m very close with them.
It’s not even necessarily the closeness it’s just “omg so many people are going to X and I just don’t want to Y so many times…”
I’m undiagnosed as well, but yes. I grew a neck beard for many years because doing nothing was much easier than a change. I’m much older now and it’s not as bad as it used to be.
Yes, omg yes. Poeple have joked I haven’t changed much since high school.
Similar with my hair. I basically do nothing at all to it for 2+ years, it gets really long, I get sick of it and cut it all off. But I absolutely dread all the comments. ****ing everyone has to make a big deal of it. Repeat every two years for the past 15 or so.
Cat: we don’t really get this? But that’s mostly on account of having internalized our role as a social wrecking ball. We will follow our trajectory, unyielding, and all the NTs are just going to have to deal with it.
I get this, and I think the root is that I’m overlooking something that will be “too much” and others will ridicule me for it or make some meaning out of it that isn’t there.
That makes total sense. I think I usually err on the side of thinking things are a bigger deal than they are and worry about something no one will even consider.
