Full disclosure: I had to quit my meds earlier this week because of side effects (tachycardia).
So I am raw dogging my emotions right now, and to put it simply: I am just so damned angry. I genuinely want to break everything around me; except… I can’t. I can’t do a goddamned thing because … responsibilities.
I feel so overwhelmed by everything, and I have absolutely no one to turn to; no one who will listen. I have no friends, and aside of my children, I have no family. My dog doesn’t even want to be around me when I’m sad or upset.
How the fuck do people do this?
I had to quit my meds because of side effects, too. The anxiety and the melancholy did creep back. It sucks. I don’t have friends or close family either. Therapy is a must for me. We talk about current and past emotional distress and triggers. My spouse is here for me but a trained pro is the only way I can make progress. I’m just doing a day at a time sometimes. I knew going into meds that they were just there to keep me alive long enough to start processing my traumas and pain.
I had to start examining the sources to get any better, to make the emotions bearable and less controlling. I had to dive into them and see what was at the bottom. I have a lot of work to do still. The outside world isn’t making this any easier. But I didn’t want to merely dull those emotions or deal with side effects of medication. I wanted control. Been off meds for almost two years now.
I would love to be off the meds, but it’s likely not a long term thing for me. I suffer from long-term depression; it can last years at a time. Therapy has been extremely helpful, but I still have to deal with my demons.
See your doc. You have medical issues that shouldn’t be handled on the Internet. I know there are drugs to control tachycardia (my mom was on one) but that’s something only an MD can prescribe.
My doc told me to stop taking the meds. I’m waiting on him to review my ekg that he also said I get.
Probably the first step is to do your best and wait to see if your feelings even out after a couple weeks. Distractions are key (videogames? binge watching shows?), since this isn’t a long term thing. If you’re sure you’re past that period, I can think of a few general suggestions.
The first is to get a doctor who’s willing to carefully test other meds with you. There’s this day group at the hospital near me, and when a friend was struggling to find meds that worked, the group was useful because they had medication specialists. when the friend tried out ones that could have bad side effects, he was being watched very closely to make sure he was safe. But attentive, diligent healthcare would solve a lot of problems, wouldn’t it? I get not everyone can have that. There might be a med out there that doesn’t fuck you up in other ways, though.
Vigorous exercise helps some people. Art’s a big one for others. Talk therapy, group therapy - being willing and able to experiment to find what works is a big one.
It’s really tough to give specific advice, since the cause can be so personal. I know a trans guy who is way less angry on T. That’s not useful universal advice, but it shows how your answer might be individual and need digging to find.
Take your dog for a walk if you’re able. Go for 2 or 3 a day if you can stand it.
Assuming you weren’t on the lowest dose of whatever med it was and you didn’t step down for fear of heart related issues, you might need a week or 3 to readjust to raw emoting.
Find a group you can join and talk to/listen to. Look for a CBT group, a local men’s group, a singles group maybe. Volunteer at a community/senior center if you can stand to.
Barring all those options being feasible, go find a 12-step group and bring donuts. Tell them you aren’t comfortable sharing just yet and sit and listen.
It’s unfortunately very natural to feel hopeless and helpless in these trying times, just don’t give up hope and be willing to accept help if it comes your way.
These are all great suggestions. I’ve definitely considered volunteering at the local animal shelter.