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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • She absolutely can suspect something going on, and perhaps it might not be unreasonable to. Just because you’re in different countries does not mean that feelings aren’t there.

    So you’ve got:

    1. being initially unwilling to come forward with these details.

    2. she knows you broke up for reasons that don’t involve feelings going away

    3. she found intimate videos of you two on your laptop.

    I’m pretty sure her mind right now is filling in the blanks in the worst possible way right now, as people tend to do, and she may not know if she can trust your first answer. This is why dodging the questions initially was about the worst thing you could have done except for actually having something going on.

    It sounds like she’s convinced that things between you and this vlogger aren’t over at all.


  • It’s insane that people defend the CCP.

    You have to understand that there are a lot of people that genuinely like the CCP because under them, there are a lot of people that went from the likes of farmers and factory workers to a serious middle class, with all the improvements to the quality of life that entails. You’d be surprised what people are willing to forgive in exchange for this.

    The CCP monitoring program also extends far beyond the country borders as well, and while they would not dare do an extraordinary rendition for pissing off the CCP, many expats still have family within Chinese borders that are completely fair game for the CCP to do as they please with. So many expats won’t risk it. The CCP are already known for fucking with families just because some of its members have expatriated. And they don’t have a limit to how far they’ll go. Concentration camps are nothing new there.


  • Here’s the thing, you were caught dodging questions about your ex (don’t think for a second she didn’t notice) and now she finds an intimate video on your laptop.

    You have to realise how that can paint a very damning picture for her. The worst part wasn’t the video, but the fact that you were dodging questions. If it wasn’t for this, you could have explained it, but given how you were dodging questions about your ex, now she’s going to doubt any answer you gave her.

    There is a fundamental issue of if she can trust you. And you’ve painted a pretty damning picture.

    If you want to address anything, address this part. Invite her to ask her anything and everything, even the parts you don’t want to bring up.



  • I’m saying that a) the fact that it is necessary and b) the fact that bomb threats were called signals that that the racism problem is so bad that not even the school, which does have disciplinary powers, can effectively do much about it. School is a big part of a kid’s life but that can easily be overridden by teachings from family.

    The fact that school wide action needed to be taken, not even to punish the culprits but to provide minorities a temporary safe space, signals that they cannot contain these incidents and deal with it on the basis of individual incidents. Usually that’s because either the are inept or unwilling to do so, or because the problem is too widespread.

    Considering the extremely hostile response to the PoC-only playdate, I’d bet my left nutsack that it’s a problem far too widespread to handle the usual way.

    TL;DR

    What I’m saying here is that there’s very likely a lot of hate being taught to the white kids in avenues the school cannot deal with. Like, if they were gonna kick people out for racism, they’ll end up kicking out half the school.


  • All-women spaces exist to provide safe harbour from harassing men, because that’s all said organisation can realistically do to ensure it doesn’t happen.

    School environments are very different in that they are much more controlled and that educators can take on a more disciplinary role.

    If the non-white kids are getting harassment from the white kids to the point where such a safe space is necessary, normally I wouldn’t be able to tell if that’s a bigger condemnation of the school’s inability to handle racism or the community’s tolerance for racism in their kids.

    The fact that there’s a fucking bomb threat over this however, is very enlightening of the community in which this school operates. It really reveals just how hostile an environment that community really is to minorities.

    So with that in mind I can definitely see the rationale for a PoC-only playdate.




  • It’s not about it being an easier or quicker death, it’s about it being easier and quicker for the perpetrator.

    But that’s exactly what I’m talking about.

    It’s much easier to pull a trigger than to stab someone. She had the same opportunity for both, but the gun was easier.

    So in this particular scenario, the gun is actually not the easier option. Any particular advantage offered by the firearm is completely offset by the scenario, like the fact that there was only one target who was under their complete control.

    There’s also a good chance she thought she could play it off as an accident. Obviously that won’t be the case with all the witness statements, but it would have been much harder to claim a fatal knife wound was an accident, and also less likely that an accidental knife wound would be fatal.

    I mean, she didn’t do a particularly good job playing off the gun as an accident either. If she were using the knife, she could say she was working in the kitchen, the kids were playing under her, she tripped, fell forward and plunged the knife into the kids neck. It’d be more believable than the gun safety story, as it relies a lot less on the adult being a completely clueless moron.

    and also less likely that an accidental knife wound would be fatal.

    True, depending on how the genuine accident happens. Unless you’re stabbing someone 37 times in the chest, it is still perfectly possible to do a cover-up though.