You do have a point, when I said it’s necessary I meant from my situation where cis passing is extremely important due to risk of violence and my fear of violence, my dysphoria is a huge part but fear of being beaten for not passing is also very big. It’s happened before my picrew doesn’t have an eyepatch for style, I was attacked for being trans and it left me permanently blind in my left eye, and I wear an eyepatch to cover up my non-functional left eye. I know that the pressure to cis pass isn’t healthy and that in an ideal world it would only be about alleviating my dysphoria. It really sucks that I have to be afraid to speak in public because someone could clock me and get violent. I don’t mean to put people in difficult situations I was just scared and wanted to know in the moment if my voice sounded alright or if I was at risk of being clocked.

I know that VFS isn’t a magic bullet and I do know that training is still worthwhile, it has had an effect, it just isn’t enough on its own to make me sound not masculine. Which is why I’ve said I need it in order to be able to pass.

knowing the person is enough to change your perception of their voice

Maybe but honestly that’s not good enough, it’s paramount that I pass without being clocked, sounding fem to people I know and who like me is nice but it’s not enough. It won’t prevent me from ending up dead in an alley because some Neonazi heard me talking and instantly clocked me.

I don’t have the luxury of being openly trans and visibly queer, not without getting hurt, possibly killed.

At this point I’d take the risk, I can’t stand my voice so much that even if there was a risk of it making me mute I’d take it even for even a slim chance to just sound like a normal cis girl.

Because gender is not a construct you stupid TERF, gender is real and trans people are real. Get that through your thick head.

“Write a bit about yourself to join this server and if we decide you’re too boring and normal we’ll reject your application and say you’re a spammer afterwards”

Hmm I wonder why normies aren’t flocking to these fediverse platforms, what could be stopping them, couldn’t be the shitty onboarding process could it? Nah asking people to apply is the best onboarding process ever (obvious big ass /s)

Probably, most of the ones on Lemmy.world are on the covert side, using dogwhistles and subtle language, to convey their points that most other people, mods included usually miss.

I don’t think any of them compare to lemmy.world. I’ve seen people openly right wing there, and I’ve seen them downvote people for no apparent reason other than being openly trans. I’ve been trying to report these incidents when they happen but I feel like it’s useless since they never do anything, even when the people are homed on their instance.