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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • Why would I bother with calling you lazy or irresponsible or inconsiderate? If you were someone I knew I just wouldn’t invite you to stuff after the first few times you don’t show up on time. Whether people don’t mean to be inconsiderate when showing up late doesn’t matter to me, it’s still not respecting my time and I simply don’t want to deal with that after a few times. But you are just a random person on the internet whose being on time or not does not affect me at all. But I don’t actually believe that you cannot help it at all. Doesn’t mean I’m going to argue about it, that’s your cross to bear and has no effect on me.

    The solution for you might be to have all/most social stuff at your place so you don’t have to deal with getting somewhere at a specific time.


  • Would aggressive alarms be of any help to make sure you can get unfocused from the thing you’re focused on and moving to the “getting to the right place” part? I’ve “forgotten the time” when it’s just me setting a time for me to do something, but when I need to be somewhere for/with others I make sure to set my alarms earlier and more of them to keep myself from having “just enough time”. And I have to make sure I actually respect the alarms, I’ve made the error of thinking “I have 5 more minutes before I need to leave” so I just start leaving when the alarm goes off now.

    I don’t know your exact situation, so this may not be of any help, but it may help someone, somewhere.








  • I find that struggling to be on time is fine, actually not being on time is disrespectful of my time. In modern society we have so many options available to make sure we can keep on time. Set up alarms, time how long it takes you to get dressed and out the door, time how long it takes you to get somewhere, set alarms to keep you on time based on what you’ve actually measured, not what one “feels” is enough time.

    Personally I’m more often than not 5+ minutes early; I can always wait a little more before I go in or something, it’s often harder to “just get there faster”.

    BTW; if someone is late because of something outside their control that’s fine; just make sure to inform me ASAP.