I have an executive function disorder. I manage.

That’s you. Your husband doesn’t manage, and hasn’t been managing for 15 years.

I do not abuse him and I resent the accusation.

Yeah I disagree. Telling you’re partner you hate being married to them absolutely qualifies as emotional abuse in my books. That one comment alone completely justifies your partner feeling like you guilt them.

You’re clearly a child or projecting your own shit onto my marriage but you’re way off base.

You’re in denial.

Oh yes… Spending 15 years failing to change someone is a very adult decision. Maybe year 16 is where he finally gets his shit together!

You’re being cruel, point blank. That’s a choice you’re choosing to make. Him being a lazy partner isn’t justification to be emotionally abusive. You know he’s not going to meet your standards. You have 15 years of evidence. You just seem unable to accept it.

It’s clear your partner has some form of executive disfunction. Do you enjoy treating him badly or something? Because why else would you do this? You’re not being honest. All you want to do is talk about how you deserve an equal partner, but the situation is bigger then that.

I hope someday your partner clues in and realizes they’ll never be able to make you happy, because you two have a toxic dynamic, something you seem unconcerned about.

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Do you hate him for not being the person you expected him to be? Is that why you think it’s okay to keep attacking his flaws?

I’m not setting him up for failure. I’m expecting him to be an equal and contributing member of our partnership.

You know he’s not that person, so you are setting him up for failure, but whatever.

You’re the one setting goals you know he won’t meet. 15 years… 15 years getting pissed/frustrated/etc at someone. 15 years of failure.

Anyways, I’m pretty sure you’re aware of this, say whatever you want to the people that don’t know better.

It’s absolutely not like that at all. I said it ONCE, not repeatedly and it was recently. As in a very tired, exhausted “I love you but I hate being married to you” because I’m just so so so tired. I have been understanding, angry, goal oriented, blasé, I’ve been every way.

How about some humility? You straight up tell your husband you hate being married to him, and rather then see that as a problem on your part you’re here trying to justify it.

Like god damn, 15 years! 15 years of setting your partner up for failure.

Your partner isn’t allowed to say you make him feel guilty, but you straight up refer to him as a shitty failure? You’re allowed to tell him you hate being married to him? That’s messed up.

It’s been 15 years of failed attempts to change her husband according to OP.

Imagine 15 years of someone setting goals for you, and you constantly failing, and them getting upset. It could be manipulation, but it could also just be panic. This situation gives me anxiety 😅

Like OP straight up tells her partner she hates being married to him…

Sounds like you’re trying to teach a fish to fly.

After getting raped I learned it’s pretty hard to find support out there.

If men as a group policed their own there would be a change.

This is actually a great idea! To make things simple perhaps we can give these policing men like… some form of identification, like a badge or a uniform so people know who to trust. This is the game changer we needed.

I love people that demand respect but can’t even give it.

Boys will be boys is something frequently said by mothers. But of course that’s fact doesn’t fit the “patriarchy” narrative.

Sorry I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, but grass is another word for weed, and historically antimarijuana propaganda was used to oppress blacks.

Contrary opinions are harmful to discussion

Spoken like someone that’s never seen a woman’s restroom.

Potato patato.

I guess that makes 50% of drivers homicidal.

Safety rules are based on many factors.

Tough shit

It’s not contest. The left doesn’t represent what I believe in so I don’t support them. I’m not going to be pushed to support I party I don’t believe in out of fear of their opposition.

me not knowing how to bring up bad news

Technology doesn’t proliferate as quickly as you’d expect. Most people aren’t on the cusp of the latest and greatest. I worked for a fucking multibilliondollar international company 2 years ago, and they still pick product, and communicate inventory adjustments with pen and paper.

People rely on the previous shit they’ve bought.