

but then they said anti-immigration and racism are just human nature, and I’m like “wow how did I think this was a good person with a few bad ideas?”
I had to try hard to not go off about how racist that is and how they are so racist there is no hope for them.
It’s indeed good that you did not do this. Some people just see enough examples of anti-immigration and racism sentiments growing in popularity that they just cynically conclude that that’s how it is, missing the parts where there are well-funded reactionary drivers of those anti-immigrant and racist sentiments, led by a capitalist system of exploitation which is designed to set people into classes.
If your response to every time someone espouses a right-wing viewpoint (whether they harbor it personally, or believe that “that’s just how it is”) is to go off on them then you will lose that person, because they’ll stop listening to you once you’re attacking them personally.
Classic case of scratch a lib and watch a fascist bleed. But I’ve been friends with a few people that have flipped to full-on socialism from prior reactionary beliefs. It’s possible.