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  • NotSpez@lemm.eetoMemes@lemmy.mlDefediverse
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    2 years ago

    Defederation is becoming the Lemmy meme.

    I think being on lemmy does not in any way oblige a user to listen to everyone all the time. A lot of people will just come here for a good time. And for the freedom of speech activists: freedom of speech also involves other peoples freedom not to want to listen.

    Moreover, I think most people who want to defederate with certain instances don’t necessarily have a problem with different world views, but have a problem with the tone being set by a small percentage of the users of said instances. Unfortunately, only a small percentage is needed to create a general vibe.

    I hope it will be possible for individual users to block entire instances very soon, this way this whole debate will become obsolete. Personally, I can’t wait for it (the debate to become obsolete, not blocking instances necessarily)











  • Just a short answer here. Firsly, really good of you to ask for help instead of letting anger, sadness and frustration (that are understandably there) take over.

    Even though I have no ecperience of my own with sex workers, it does seem a good idea. If something like this becomes too much of an issue it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. On that though: I would consider hiring an escort instead of a red light district kind of situation. Losing your virginity is an intimate afgair, nice not to be rushed because you only have 20-30 minutes. Tell her in advance. Consider going to the same 2-3 times, as sex the first time can be awkward and quick, or not happen at all because of performance issues associated with the mental pressure - that is normal and OK.

    As for dating, and this is the ugly truth, desperation is a stinky cologne. Thats why I think the sex worker could be an interesting angle for now. Work out your issues with a therapist, focus on meeting people who share your passions instead of looking for passion for now. To me, that’s where the magic happens. Good luck OP, feel free to keep us posted!