Ik heb twee situaties gehad waarbij ik 8844 heb gebeld en ik onmiddellijk door werd gezet naar 112 toen ik zei wat er aan de hand was. Als zij vinden dat je 112 moet bellen kan dat dus wel gebeuren.

My sister has passed away a couple of years ago. She still has an in memoriam account on Facebook. I am afraid to request to remove it as I am not sure whether someone is still looking at it sometimes for comfort. I do want to keep an eye on it in case someone posts something on her wall, so I still have an account myself to check it. That is the only reason. I never do anything else with it and I ditched Instagram.

Dat veranderen van het kiesstelsel klinkt echt enorm zorgelijk. Je wil gewoon dat één stem één stem is, dat is het eerlijkste. Daarnaast hoort bij democratie dat ook minderheden beschermd worden. Ik begrijp dat deze partijen niet goed snappen hoe dat werkt, maar dat hoort wel bij een democratie. Het is niet de dictatuur van de meerderheid. Als mensen niet op van die asociale partijen stemmen, dan heb je dit soort gekke fratsen ook niet nodig.

Ze zijn nog niet terug van vakantie of ze beginnen alweer met domme populistische praatjes. Wordt lekker zo de komende tijd.

1 is een pollepel en 2 is een soeplepel.

Cool!

Van der Plas komt juist op mij over alsof haar ego enorm op de voorgrond staat eerlijk gezegd. Hoeveel andere BBB politici kent de gemiddelde Nederlander?

Heb ik niet gezien eerlijk gezegd. Maar kan natuurlijk dat hij ook wel wat programma’s gemaakt heeft die leuk waren maar die ik heb gemist.

Als zijn nieuwe inzicht en spijt inderdaad oprecht is en niet uit eigenbelang, dan is dat natuurlijk goed. Het is dan ook een goed voorbeeld voor andere mensen die niet zo bekend zijn, maar wel hetzelfde gedrag hebben op het werk.

Ik moet zeggen dat ik zijn programma’s verder niet zo bekeek. De afgelopen jaren vond ik DWDD echt irritant om naar te kijken ook. Superoppervlakkig met steeds maar weer diezelfde mensen en geforceerd leuk doen en dingen over de top de hemel in prijzen. Ik mis hem dus niet echt op tv ofzo.

Laatste tijd ook allemaal berichten over dat zowel de politie als het systeem voor de rechtspraak totaal overbelast zijn. Dat gaat dus echt ten koste van kwaliteit in dit geval.

You actually found it. I was too lazy, bit I still wanted to know. Thanks!

Here it does a great job of reducing a text of 174 words to 172 words. 👍

(I do not want to complain too much. Usually it works and it is short enough for me to quickly read it.)

I am wondering what words it saved and why we did not need those words, but, apparently, we needed all the other ones.

Also, saying that it saved 2 words took more than 2 words. So, it actually added words.

I do not think you are ugly. You just look a bit unhappy. I hope that you can find ways to feel better about yourself.

I can understand what you mean to say, I think. For example, cognitive behavioral therapy aims to change the way in which people suffering from depression think in order to cure them. It can be quite effective. However, in many cases with major depression different therapies, trauma treatment or medication is also required. In the worst cases, someone might need electroshocks.

I think the issue is that people with depression and people with eating disorders often get blamed for it and they often blame themselves. They are legitimately ill and it is not their fault, just like having any other condition is not your fault. However, due to society’s message of ‘just say no’ to depressive thoughts or food, they might keep on blaming themselves and feel like they are a failure and should just try harder. This can make them just fall deeper in the pit they are in, instead of getting the treatment they need.

I think the last part is not what you meant, but it sounded a bit that way.

I guess OP has never heard of eating disorders.

I do not want my data to be monetised at all and I try to limit my use of services that do monetise my data as much as possible. This means that I try to not use Google products, for example.

In some cases, I feel forced to use it because the consequences of doing so are too high. For example, almost all my friends and family use WhatsApp. If I do not use it, I will be harder for hem to communicate with and I would miss out on a lot of stuff which happens in groups. I am not sure to what extent WhatsApp uses my data, but it is part of Meta and I do not trust Meta at all. However, in this case, access to my friends and family is more important to me. Although I am quite angry about it and I will get out immediately once there is a law that obligates messaging apps to be able to communicate with each other.

I would share my data for other uses, if it is in the interest of society. For example, I would share it for some scientific research.

Hij is wel iemand waarbij ik niet denk dat hij heel gek is op zichzelf op de een of andere manier. 🤔

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That is okay, I can be quite long-winded as well! Thank you also for saying that I was helpful to talk to. I like talking to you too.

Understanding each others trauma is not enough for a friendship, I agree with that. You need more than that. Personalities that fit well together, same level of intelligence, same sense of humour.

I am not that sarcastic myself, but my sense of humour can be a little bit dark sometimes. Especially me and my sister could make some dark jokes together. I miss that. Some people might be offended a little bit by some jokes, but if they are not really hurt by it, just slightly offended, that is even funnier sometimes to be honest. I think humour is a very healthy way to cope, including sarcasm. It can be a way to still find joy or to reduce tension or put things in perspective. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe you need to have experienced dark stuff to get the sarcasm and dark humour?

I think accusing people of trauma dumping is a very unempathic way for people to create a distance between them and the things you are telling them. They are scared by it and this is their way to cope. My boyfriend had a fairly normal childhood and life. I used to be quite open with him about what happened to me and he would just almost shut down and not respond (some of the time, other times he was supportive). We had some issues with that, because I was really hurt by that. He used to say that it was just too much for him to deal with. And I actually would get a little bit angry about that. I had to deal with these things that happened to me. I had to and and I could, while at the same time even only hearing about it was too much for him. I just could not understand. However, after a lot of discussion, I now think that what you can cope with depends very much on what you have had to cope with. I can deal with the things that happened to me, because not dealing with them was not an option. They were happening and I had no control. My boyfriend, however, does not strictly need to hear about my trauma, so he has the room to be unable to deal with it. He also had not something worse than that happening to him, teaching him how to deal with this stuff. So, he just did not respond and tries to ignore it.

In short, your seamstress probably cannot or does not want to deal with it probably for similar reasons and is mean to create a distance. It could also be that it is a trigger for her and that is why she creates a distance. Traumatised people can also just be assholes.

I addition, I told you you were strong as well. It is very obvious from your story. However, I am not a therapist and a therapist should dig deeper than that. Things are not magically solved because you tell people something positive. You actually really need to get to know them and know what they need and try to provide that. These therapists seem to lack that basic skill. I am sorry to hear that the therapists are so bad where you live. A good one can really help a lot, but bad once only cost money or even do damage.

If your ex still could be a threat to you, then it is quite functional to be scared. It might help with protecting yourself. A restraining order might help with being and feeling more safe again.

I have not heard about thought tracking (but maybe that is because English is not my native language). What do you do exactly?

I also like to talk to you! Definitely let me know when you want to talk. :-)