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You want to believe what you want to believe. That is okay, but remember that you made that decision.

Of course, the other person only see the actions and technically it could be a performance, but you will fail to perform it if you don’t actually feel it.

Nah it is a feeling. It just impacts your behavior. Like fear impacts your behavior, or anger… Or hunger…

If you know your worth and you want to meet people, you don’t sit in the corner waiting for someone to see it.

A confident person does what they believe will lead to success. They take their shot and they will miss more often than not, but they hit at times.

A confident person doesn’t care if people are weirdos about them taking a shot. Because they are confident enough to see that the weirdos are the ones that think it is weird to attempt for love.

Confidence is not being the loudest voice, and taking up space. Confidence is to accept disharmony, if they are right.

Oh I completely agree! I think “competence” is a good source of confidence as it is so independent of so much other stuff. the brash or cocky level of confidence seems fake to me. So when I talk about confidence, I mean self-acceptance and self-appreciation.

Hey, I am relatively young, so take this as the experience with the appropriated doubt.

Confidence will betray you if you aren’t confident. If you think that you are a man not better or worse than others with a partner, then maybe it is difficult to find confidence in that. But that is why you have to do what we all are doing … Look at the things that you are better at than most.

Personally, I know a fair bit about computers. So I take pride in that. Sure, others are probably better at it than me but I am better than most.

Now, being good with computers and knowing a lot about them is generally not what people want to talk about. But that is the neat thing… You don’t have to. I know that I am. I communicate that I am and tell them that I am open to talk about it but as usually people aren’t into it, I won’t start that topic.

That means for me 2 things, 1. My selling point is not my confidence, skill or value. My selling point is me. Either they want me or they don’t. My value is outside anything and everything that they judge. I know my value. And they see it or they don’t. 2. I don’t need to show off what I am confident in.

Those 2 things give me confidence in dating. I don’t have confidence that they want to pull me into their bed. I have confidence in myself and my value.

My gf loves me. I don’t always understand why but she seems really committed. Something about me, that I don’t know and have no confidence in, she is in love with. But that is not an issue, I can love myself for reasons different to her reasons to love me.

Confidence is important because it changes how you behave. Behavior with confidence tend to be more honest in practice. You don’t overthink whether or not to text and ask them out. You aren’t scared of losing this opportunity and feel like a white lie to save the opportunity is worth it. It gives you the ability to communicate in certainty. You say what you mean. And an “I love you” is much more appealing when there is no doubt about the truth of it. Also if your plan is a long life together… Hiding doesn’t work for 20 years.

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