Get his belly shaved.

Seriously. It’s a thing people do for long-haired cats to help them cool off in the summer.

I use a Porlex hand mill. I gently tap to knock free any loose bits, then I don’t worry about the rest.

I mostly use a French press for brewing. I know the fines aren’t ideal for my brewing method, but they don’t impact the flavor or texture in a way that bothers me.

Cowboy Bebop

If his primary credential is “YouTube content creator,” that’s probably a hard pass.

Come to think of it, you can probably see the argument because your eyes aren’t gouged out.

How many of your own eyes is it best to gouge out?

Plumbing warehouses must be the wealthiest businesses in the world.

He is not.

A tariff is a tax that increases the price of imported goods.

Tariffs are used to push people toward domestic alternatives to imported goods.

However, today, there are no domestic alternatives to most important goods.

So, all it’s doing is increasing the burden on the average person.

Companies are not going to invest in domestic production. They are going to spend that money lobbying to have tarriffs removed. Because guess what? Once tariffs go away, consumer prices are not going to go back to what they used to be. Instead, megacorps are going to pocket the difference as profit.

Speaking as someone who did similar:

You will never be able to make him understand why you’re cutting off contact. You may not see that now. Spork knows, I didn’t for a few years. But it’s true, if you try to explain he will simply try to debate or he’ll push you off as immature.

To save your own sanity, all you can do is cut ties completely.

Other people here may offer differing advice. Some of them haven’t been through this situation, so they can’t know the torment you’re going through.

I can only speak from my experience.

Cutting them off was the best thing I did for my mental health. Cutting them off was not easy. I still think of them sometimes, of what might have been. But I’m comfortable with my decision, I’m confident I made the right one. Through plenty of evidence-based psychology, I now understand the reasons.

Getting back to your first question: sometimes, it’s good to be selfish for the right reasons. Maintaining your own health and well-being? That’s the right reason.

Your father’s desire to hurt people is far more selfish than making him discuss something. But if you make him discuss it, he will only act threatened and refuse to see your point of view.

You will only begin to heal once you cut him out of your life. I don’t say that lightly.

Again, if someone hasn’t lived through a situation like this (and hasn’t had to make the same hard decisions), they can’t understand. So don’t be afraid of the naysayers.