Here is some previous discussion on whether to defederate from them due to worries about their moderation capacity (and how it leads to spam/etc): https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1671319
So far, it seems that most of the spam etc isn’t making it through to people, which is great! It means we can keep things going as they are without it impacting people too much. Please use this thread to let me know if that changes though
This is such a shitty way to frame it.
I think folk should default to neutral pronouns, especially in trans safe spaces. But phrasing a failure to do so it as “misgendering trans people” is jumping straight to the most absolute bad-faith interpretation.
Then further, saying that anyone who does it is “a transphobe” is way off base. (It reminds me of Contrapoint’s bit about essentialism)
It’s also notable to me that you’re not asking for e.g. any change of policy here. You’re not trying to improve the way this instance is run to discourage folk from using masculine defaults.
You’re using this incident only to wage war against someone you were already in conflict with, and assuming that anyone who steps in and criticizes your behavior is taking sides in that conflict.
I can’t think of anything less trans-friendly than mandatory pronoun marking.
I quite liked this quote from Isabel Fall (more about identity than pronouns specifically, but still related!)
“We make boxes that seem to enclose a satisfying number of human experiences, and then we put labels on those and argue about them instead,” she says. “The boxes change over time, according to a process which is governed by, as far as I can tell, cycles of human suffering: We realize that forcing people into the last set of boxes was painful and wrong, we wring our hands, we fold up some new boxes and assure ourselves that this time we got it right, or at least right enough for now. Because we need the boxes to argue over. I do not want to be in a box. I want to sift through your fingers, to vanish, to be unseen.”
This doesn’t seem to be normal, but I found laser maybe two order of magnitude more painful than electrolysis
From reading other’s accounts, I find laser more painful than typical, and electro less painful. I once even came close to falling asleep during an electrolysis session.
I had a mix of dark+white hair when I started. Laser did get a bit more bearable over time, but I think that’s just because there was almost no dark hair left to zap.
Other than the pain, laser was better on most other dimenions (My skin recovered faster, the sessions are shorter and less often, you don’t have to skip shaving for a couple of days, etc.)
I think it’s a weirdly over-the-top response to the situation described here: https://www.polygon.com/23823516/dnd-dungeons-dragons-wizards-ai-art-controversy-bigby-presents-glory-of-the-giants
I guess I’m kind of confused – by “on here” do you mean in this community, on blahaj.zone, or just on lemmy in general?
(I have not run into transphobia in any of those places, but I stick to a pretty small set of communities)
You might want to start by looking at common last names for a region you identify with.
e.g. here’s a list of common surnames in England/Wales (Picked because I’m British myself)
If I had to pick from that particular list, I might go with:
(also several borderline puns such as Valentine Hart, Valentine Rose, Valentine Day)
e: Oh also, I honestly didn’t think my full name flowed very well initially. But I got used to it over time!