

Neither - the words you mentioned are usually employed by people wanting to take advantage of you.
Distancing from it is a self-preservation thing, and sometimes a moral thing. People don’t like being played, or doing bad things because someone told them it’s for family/clan/country/etc.
These were not even normal prisoners, they were illegal immigrants. Well, now it makes sense, the US is so against immigration they are even going after immigrants to Yemen.