Fine, but…

You could have just admitted you were wrong and move on but you had to say something else to save face.

Obviously I am talking within the context of the Fediverse, asshat.

Nobody is saying that neurodivergent people can’t do small talk, it’s that it is oftentimes a dreadful experience for them. You do understand the difference, yes?

It’s a bit like telling someone genetically predisposed to disliking cilantro because it tastes like soap to “just eat cliantro… everyone can do it!”

> Am perfectly fine cutting that behaviour out of my life and my social circle.

This sentence feels so performative and cringey, and yet it still must be said aloud because even my ex-friend to this day defends a similarly shitty guy with a well-documented pattern of abuse.

> Am perfectly fine cutting that behaviour out of my life and my social circle.

This sentence feels so performative and cringey, and yet it still must be said aloud because even my ex-friend still defends a similarly shitty guy with a well-documented pattern of abuse.

I see what you’re saying, I think that other commenters are misinterpreting what it is that you are trying to say. I certainly was.

Well said.

Been a lot of trolls in COM lately. Absolutely one of them.
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I had this wheel user tell me that the donations to SDF go into a black hole because smj is dead.

> Some think it’s a radical approach, but I don’t see it that way. For all its capabilities, the Internet isn’t real and neither are the relationships we have with people on numerous sites that form its social aspect. Thus, there’s really little logic in giving people second chances, wasting time, attention and effort for them, trying to get through their attitudes and suffering to reach “real” them.

You’re absolutely correct.

I think that saying that someone “failed at life” is a bit stupid because, they would do exactly what you recommend in your own comment; they would give friends & family a second chance:

> Regardless of who I cut out though, there is ALWAYS room to come back if they change and grow up.

> I’m still hoping my mom will before she passes… : /

Maybe you see things differently, but perhaps there is something more interesting and constructive you could say than: “You both failed at life.”

Of course, arguing online is pretty fun… haha! :)

Changing the algorithm would probably be implemented as a version update which all instances would eventually need to adopt, or be left behind in features & security patches.

Allowing people to game your algorithm to keep their content higher is not a good thing. It made reddit unbearable (thankfully we have Local feed on Lemmy), twitter, etc. It is why YouTube (as far as genuinely informative videos go) is circling the drain.

> And yet, by the numbers, it is basically the fediverse (like literally ~88% of active users are on mastodon!).

I guess it must not be as bad as you make it out to be then?

What’s moronic is advocating for the enshittification of a platform.

They did that in my hometown… :^)

Sure, I agree, but you do realize where the highway went in this picture, right? It’s still there…

Edit: Cease fire! Friendly fire!!! FrieNDLY FIIIIREEEE!!!

Yea, I don’t want to sound like I’m arguing here, but there is a generally negative vibe that is being replicated here on lemmy as it was on reddit:

• Too many Elon Musk twitter posts
• Too much climate change doom & gloom
• Too much political doom & gloom

The toxicity is already here when you browse “All.” I’ve just blocked most of the offending communities for a better experience. The list grows longer every day… but that’s just my opinion. I think we can all agree that browsing “All” is like playing mental health on nightmare mode.

There is a lot of toxicity that I don’t want here…

It already is… :(

Thank you for the comment and infographic.

I disagree. Lots of developed countries in Europe and Asia have desirable urban disign. In fact, I would argue that the USA is uniquely bad.

I totally, 100% agree with you here. I’ve seen that tax income vs tax burden graphic before as well and I think it is a great way to visualize the effectiveness of commercial space used in a city. I truly wish that suburbia would adopt better zoning laws…

*EDIT (for the paragraph below): I just watched another video titled “Are Dutch Cities Really that Different? Debunking Cycling Myths” - which addresses exactly my angst! This is the quote: “If cycling advocates focus too much on the Netherlands… if it’s always the example that gets brought up… regular people and cycling critics will understandably get a little suspicious, and assume that cycling is just a quirk of one unique country. People arguing for bike infrastructure need to be able to talk about other places: London, New York, Vancouver, Bogota, Tokyo, and so on…”

I wish I had specified that I think that the Netherlands is unique specifically about biking. They seem to be at the top of many of the cycling metrics, sometimes by a lot. For example, the Netherlands is the only place with more bikes than people! To me, it’s no wonder, considering the bike culture predating WWII, and limited space, that such a small country would end up with some of the highest-quality, high-density bikable nieghborhoods on the planet. Hopefully my rant feels a bit more grounded in reality then…

NJB calls this “The Dumbest Excuse for Bad Cities”

Haven’t seen this one yet!

*POST-WATCH EDIT: That video was pretty darn sad. Hopefully the situation will improve within my lifetime :(

If you like spreadsheets presented as a youtube video: you should check out citynerd. Here’s a video where he lists cities with affordable, walkable neighborhoods: 10 Walkable US Cities That Won’t Bankrupt You. Spoiler: Pittsburgh wins.

I’ve seen it, and I have lived in one of the cities mentioned. It was a good time, I only wish it had more separated bike lanes!

I think that parking reforms is the best way to move away from car dependency, and these are being mandated in the state of Oregon, which has also had urban growth boundaries for a long time.

I have been trying to find a nice state in my spare time and so I’ve put them in a little text document. I will move Oregon up on the priority list, I hadn’t heard about the urban growth boundaries. Thank you!!