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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • I feel like the stress of being perceived is exactly what drives me to need to be masking all the time, but when I am able to start my hyperfocus I stop noticing the perception as much. I think it’s moreso the actual masking that drains me. But now that I think about it, I remember living with my family and how I would get stressed when other people were awake because they might come to my room and try to talk to me so I ended up doing most of my work at night so I wasn’t keeping my mask on standby to use your words. I ended up being pretty much nocturnal. I don’t think my awareness of the sounds in the house were quite as acute as yours but it was definitely a Thing for me to be bothered by noises in the house when trying to focus, especially when near burnout. And honestly I feel drained just by being in public, even without interacting with anyone. It’s probably a mix of both.

    I can relate to a lot of what you’ve written here though. I mask all the time, I don’t really know how to stop, but it just leaves me completely wrecked after just a few hours of doing it.

    I’m working on finding ways to maybe not unmask, but find more sustainable lower energy masks with safe people. Part of that I guess is finding more safe people. I can pretty much unmask with my partner, but that’s taken a long time to get there. I’d like to be able to spend time with more than exactly one person without burning all my energy on my dumb mask.




  • I read their Steam post. They spend a lot of time defending incest/rape kinks and saying “fiction doesn’t affect reality”. Sure. I don’t think people are gonna play this and immediately go rape their family, and I think people criticizing this sort of game easily get caught up in the “video games cause violence” claim. Australia loves that one.

    But the thing they didn’t address, and I think is a bigger deal, is how this game is clearly leaning on and encouraging a culture of misogyny. The Steam description even talks about learning “what women are really like”, a common refrain from actual misogynists. This game doesn’t exist in a vacuum, and it’s part of a massive normalized rape culture. They’re just hiding behind the “it’s just fiction” defense.

    What I do agree with the post on though (I can’t believe I’m saying that) is that this feels like a Streisand effect situation. This game doesn’t deserve the level of coverage and attention it’s getting. It’s basically free advertising for the misogynistic weirdos who this appeals to, and this ploy of “oh we’re gonna remove it from Steam ourselves” reeks of a desperate grab at more coverage and thus sales. If they were serious about delisting, they wouldn’t have conveniently left it up after making their post—even if only temporarily. It’s a classic “going out of business” sale.

    Edit: They did unlist it on Steam, but it’s still for sale on Itch lol. I’d put good money on this whole affair making them monumentally more sales than they would have otherwise, and they have a larger platform than ever.


  • A lot of people have suggested Tailscale and it’s basically the perfect solution to all your requirements.

    You keep saying you need ProtonVPN which means you can’t use Tailscale, but Tailscale actually supports setting up an exit node which is what you need. Put Protonvpn on the Raspberry Pi, then set it up as an exit node for your tailnet. There’s a lot of people talking about how they did this online. It looks like they even have native support for bypassing the manual setup if you use Mullvad.

    As long as every client has the ability to use Tailscale (I.e. no weird TVs or anything) this seems like it checks all your boxes. And since everything is E2EE from Tailscale, TLS is redundant and you can just use HTTP.









  • Distributions often ship their own compiled versions of the kernel, with some options changed, but it’s still Linux. Same with GNU tools. But the main difference between distros isn’t their flavor of GNU tools or what kernel they ship, the difference between distros is actually all the stuff that gets layered on top like the package manager.