I agree with you. What would be the use of those patrols if not to police behaviour?

Maybe someone with more historical knowledge could expand on the meaning of “Black Panther style community patrols”.

Hey I am the moderator of !notvoting, so this might a bit biased:

I would like to know how you feel about the [email protected] community and if you think it has a place on slrpnk.net. This has also been a topic in the moderators chat on movim.srpnk.net for a bit.

Discussions around voting and US politics in general gets pretty heated. Even on slrpnk.net where I usually expect good faith exchanges, I had a few situations where the hostility was really noticeable. So please try to be understanding and kind to each other.

A few words about the community by me:

I made the community about not voting. That can include anti voting sentiments (I understand that as “voting is bad”), but also aims at those just not wanting to participate and those not able to participate. I can see how this distinction might not make sense for everybody, so feel free to ask for more clarification :)

I don’t want to create unnecessary divisions or drama on slrpnk.net or with other instances, so I am definitely fine with shutting [email protected] down if it constantly leads to that. I can see how [email protected] showing up on the local feed can be annoying to some and might result in people commenting on those posts to voice their discontent with the community. I appeal to you to focus on the positions and goals we have in common instead of the differences. Because I believe that will result in a way better experience on slrpnk.net for all of us.

I think you are trying to isolate a topic from all the other issues, but it seems pretty much impossible. Even if you for yourself can isolate the topic perfectly, I really doubt your husband is willing to do same and instead will view this in context of all other discussions you already had.

You know your husband best and probably know the best way to bring up this issue. If you, as someone who lived with him for years doesn’t know how to get him to understand this, we probably aren’t able to either.

I don’t have any experience with this, but in similar situations I saw two recommended strategies:

• Get someone to be on your side in this issues and get them involved, like ask a family member or a friend for help when bringing this topic up. Or get some help mediating this like with a counselor or get into couples therapy

• Confront your husband with consequences if he does not do get it. I thinks its important that those are consequences that you can actually enforce. So separation / divorce / no sex / not cooking / no cleaning / other things for him can totally be those consequences.

Like this

On December 10th, at around 6 p.m., 200 environmental activists suddenly stormed and “invaded” a Lafarge company cement factory of La Malle in Bouc-Bel-Air in the Bouches-du-Rhone, Provence-Alpes-Côte d’Azur region in Southern France. Infrastructure at the plant was reportedly attacked using a variety of methods, including: sabotage of incinerators and electrical systems and devices; cable cutting; bags of cement cut open and spilled; damage to vehicles and construction equipment; damaged windows; and graffiti spraying.

Just wondering: Is it technically possible to close communities till there is moderation? Like no posts, votes and comments allowed but current state is preserved.

Besides that I really enjoy when I browse the local timeline on slrpnk.net and thats because the communities here are awesome and interesting.

Do situations like that - your feelings getting invalidated and turned on yourself - happen more often or is it uncommon?

And I can see why you struggle to put this in words and explain it to him, because to me it seems like its so many layers you would need to explain to him before he would be able to see his manipulative behavior. This is something I would really struggle to do myself, so i can just send you virtual hugs.

Sorry if this unwanted advice, feel free to skip the stuff below if you just want advice regarding that specific situation.

Reading your comments, I am wondering, do you have any boundaries regarding chores and their distribution? Like if nothing changes, how long can you live with it? What is the minimum of understanding/change you want to achieve to stay in this relationship? Are there any red lines for you? How do see your own situation when you are sick for a longer time or older or have to work for more hours a week?

I feel like you already took a huge effort to communicate with your husband, to provide resources and free education, to be understanding, to deal with constant mild annoyance. It seems like that did not change anything. Right now it seems more than reasonable to check in with your own needs, expectations/hopes/wishes for the future and if you actually believe in your husbands willfulness&ability to change his ways.

Somehow you are only focusing on slavery as tool to exploit bodies for work and not also as a tool of white supremacy and the connection between both. And that is in my opinion a large part why the comparison just feels so inconsiderate to me.

I mean functionally we are slaves there’s just no physical punishment for not working.

I feel like this not really the only difference between slaves and relying on wage labor to survive. Comparing wage labor under capitalism with slavery seems really inconsiderate to me because slavery in many places was not just forced labor.

The article here complains about young men gaming more so they work less and somehow this gets compared to slavery. Sorry but WTF

When I googled my recommendation “Country of ghosts” by Margaret Killjoy i found this collection of books

@HardlightCereal pointed it already out, but I think its worth mentioning in top level comment.

In the original discussion on this topic (here and here) it felt good faith and folks atleast tried to be trans inclusive from my perspective. Also the moderation at that moment took a pretty transinclusive stance, see their FAQ.

When I look at the current discussion on [email protected] it does not seem to be the same spirit. I think multiple upvoted comments are trans exclusionary and/or transphobic. None of those comments come from users that are from slrpnk.net btw

While I think this sample size is to small to judge a community with 800+ users, it still shows atleast a tendency.

I feel like there is really little overlap between the communities on both instances. Atleast I would probably not even notice the defederation.

But since the instance seems to focus on the cryptocurrency Monero I would like to point out reasons why Monero might be relevant for slrpnk.net.

• one of the ways to donate to the Lemmy project / developers is via Monero
• for anarchy2023.org, which was a pretty big anarchist event (3000-4000 participants and 400+ workshops), Monero is one of the 3 ways to donate for covering the costs
• we have [email protected] on slrpnk.net - while probably most people in that community are getting their equipment&seeds in a legal way (and do not sell drugslol), there are also many folks worldwide who have to rely on illegal ways to get those things. buying them online, using crypto like Monero might one way to do that

I hope this does not come over as an endorsement of Monero. I just want to point out the small, but existing connections some folks on slrpnk.net might have with Monero

The worst enemy of the left has been, is, and always will be, the left. The infighting is insane.

Idk about that, I would argue that the people that killed or imprisoned leftists or plan to do so have been/are the worst enemy of leftists. Like in Germany the nazis kinda killed or exiled a whole generation of leftists of all stripes. I think that is way worse than infighting, arguments or splitting up.

And calling something negative “insane” has a kinda ableist tone. I think other words would be equally effective in making your point.

Maybe I made a mistake there '^^ Thanks for pointing that out!

Thank you for checking! I think those comments are mostly (Those that I checked were atleast) from instances we are federated with. But this seems to be something I was able to reproduce on other instances, like https://lemm.ee/c/[email protected] and https://lemmy.world/c/[email protected] also have no comments.

If you notice a comment missing you can try to manually pull it by copying the full URL of the post (linked in that colorful Fediverse icon) and pasting it in the search bar here. That will usually make it available for everyone and you can reply.

This does not seem to work for me, I did it a few hours ago on a few of those posts and nothing changed.

Seems to be general federation weirdness to me

posted that to [email protected] btw

I think Nostr is not that well known, so if yuu have any ressources that explain how it works, that might be really helpful. Probably coolest would information from an anarchist perspective.

It is also more anarchist than the fediverse because your identity there is not bound to a server/domain which can be shut down or moderated at any time.

I feel like arguing if something is more or less anarchist is not that helpful when you try to promote something.

I probably wont join Nostr anytime soon but I wish you and anyone who does a good experience with lots of great connections.

Great script, learned a new word “carceral feminism”. also a new youtuber I now follow, thanks for that!

Becauseany of the bigger names started doing longer and longer videos this one actually felt short in comparison.

And +1 on the runtimes

And then there are times you set a password and everything just seems to work fine, but later the new password never works. You reset the password, try again and really focus because you think you made some mistake with the password manager. Again the password you set does not work.

You begin to google the problem and see that there is a max password lenght of 12. But you always set passwords of the lenght 20-30 and the interface never complained. But because you are desperate, you try just the first 12 characters of the last password you set. And it works!

I hate HP printers.

Finde dabei werden aber so einige Gruppen, besonders Minderheiten, wie queere Menschen oder von Rassismus betroffene Menschen, gegen die die AfD hetzt ignoriert. Die würden ja das meisten von dem abbekommen was in der Studie beschrieben und dann zusätzlich noch Dinge wie queerfeindliche und/oder rasistische Gesetze