I’ve been thinking about your comment and I started to wonder if maybe the politics is what’s actually keeping me from enjoying the format. I’ve tried some of that but I get swung at anyway, often because I’m the least dangerous/easiest to attack at any given moment (no blockers, no reach, etc). Even as much as I point to the Muldrotha and say “hey I’ve played that deck and none of you have targeted that player, it could get wild” it never seems to work. If I’m bad at the political game, maybe the rest of the game just kind of crumbles around me? I hear these stories of people “not looking like a threat” but when i try to do the same I think it looks more like I’m a soft target.
Asking them to bring precons sounds good. UT at least two of the people in that group don’t even own any precons. For them, the deckbuilding is the fun part, so they’d just as well not play than run someone else’s deck.
I think trying to proxy something more powerful is the last chance here, and if I still don’t “get” commander after that, I’ll probably just throw the towel in and do something else when they break out the commander decks.
Another friend (not in this pod) pointed out that it’s for cards you love, a commander youre dying to build around, etc, so if you have to ask where the fun is, it’s not the format for you, and I guess I get that.