You killed my father. Prepare to die.

Drop the bass

Done

Disclaimer: Joke!

To help native speakers identify foreigners.

I agree that we both need to go through a healing program or exercise. I think I’m impatient and maybe a little resentful because I am actively pursuing self healing techniques, whereas she has all but admitted she hasn’t bothered. Also, as I mentioned, communication about this is nascent and superficial so far.

I’ll try the book recommendation, I think that one has been suggested to me before.

Disclaimer: I don’t have a suggestion for you. Just a thought experiment.

I rate a product/service against a bunch of things, like privacy, ease of use, utility, necessity, etc., and come to an important radio.

I have a similar scenario (very young spectrum child), so I tried this.

It’s gonna be hard to geo track anything without sharing the data unless you can launch your own satellites.

The trigger scenarios (natural disasters, kidnappers, or just general/accidental negligence/happenstance) really feel like fringe cases. While the utility of the tracking in these scenarios would be extremely high, the likelihood of their necessity is incredibly low. Especially given that the caretakers have already been extended enough trust to leave such a precious asset in their unmonitored care, so it may stand to reason that they can be entrusted to react and take care correctly in these cases.

I think the cost to benefit radio is a little off. I totally see the value, I just wonder if it isn’t too much effort/expense.

I suppose we’ve reached a “agree to disagree and don’t talk about it as a result” status, which I’m willing to accept, sorta choosing which hill I wanna die on, ya know?

It’s just that I wish there was more support, whereas I feel instead that there’s ridicule or disrespect because her standpoint comes across more as “I’m right and you are wrong so I think less of you for it.”

But, focusing on the privacy topic rather than relationship advice, I really just wish there were a way for me to present her with a case that allowed her to validate my arguments and respect them, even if she doesn’t agree. I think that’s just asking too much because there isn’t a single justification I’ve ever put forth with which she could understand my opinion.

No privacy supporting suggestion works with her because she simply doesn’t value it. I guess I could be projecting expectations, but I think I’m valid in wanting my views respected, even if they aren’t conceded.

I really can’t say, we simply don’t agree. I say “I’d just rather my data belongs to me and curate who I share it with” and she hears “GIANT SPACE LIZARDS ARE TRYING TO MELT THE AMAZON” and just pictures me wearing a tin-foil hat.

I once asked her “If someone was standing outside our window, watching and taking notes, would you draw the curtains?” and she spent more time arguing that the metaphor was ridiculous and irrelevant than actually rationalizing the point I was trying to make. Literally no argument I’ve seen works on her. She just doesn’t agree.

Yes, I think that’s fairly accurate.

It’s really that, while I’ve respected her choice to not participate in any of the practices/protocols I’ve recommended, she doesn’t see my own involvement in them as anything more than a waste of time. Even more so, she’s said she worries about the way it might change me into a paranoid person (conspiracy theorist).

Which feels a little disrespectful of the beliefs I’ve chosen. Like being told you’re worshipping the wrong god, by your partner.

I haven’t caught up with all the comments yet, so forgive me if I’m missing some context.

You’ve described a situation eerily similar to my own, with many of the same challenges, dysfunctions, and dynamics. I’m only saying that to frame my response. Reading it over after I’ve typed it, I think I’m giving more support/encouragement than actual suggestions, but some of this is the stuff I needed to hear myself.

First, I feel for you, going through this pain. It is one of the hardest things to experience, certainly. It is not, however, permanent unless you allow it to be.

Second, the solution will likely require intense work from both of you, but it sounds like you already understand that.

Third, don’t be surprised if it gets worse before it gets better. I add this to give you hope.

Finally, to quote C. S. Lewis, “You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending.”

Special bonus content: I found the book Facing & Overcoming Codependency by Andrei Nedelcu unbelievably illuminating for my own situation, and would suggest it to you even for the lessons and skills it teaches regardless of whether codependency is ultimately the issue for either if you.

Best wishes.

Please detail the arcane wizardry which allowed you to achieve the respectful of your choices part you described, because it is the only way your story differs from my own situation.

Awesome, thanks!

Any chance you have a loanable copy?

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While there is some utility aded by this for some of the recipients, can you seriously tell me that a positive impact would be ubiquitous?

The data often suggests that gun related incidents increase and are correlated to density of guns. By adding more, you’re kindling the fire.

Bigger cloud, more rain.

I would appreciate posts of various resources, especially (support) groups and reading material for those who communicate primarily through their keyboards and screens.

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I hadn’t thought about it this way until I read your comment, but why not let them join the party? If they’re federating like Lemmy and Mastodon, isn’t that an acknowledgment that federation is a valid competitor? And if they’re re-modeling themselves to act like this, doesn’t that indicate we’re on the path to the future and we should welcome as many converts as they want to make?