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Cake day: July 13th, 2023

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  • I’m 30 years old, and even when I was 15 I wasn’t really friends with the super mean girl gossip types. Throughout my life, I’ve been friends with women who largely identify as feminist and sort of reject those stereotypes.

    The problem is that post #metoo it became normalized to take the whole “support women” thing to such an extreme that it enabled toxic behavior. While there were women who tried to pull the whole “it’s sexist to criticize me for making poor life choices” crap, other women would get super offended for them attempting to use feminism in that way.

    It’s extremely frustrating that the 19 and 20 year old women I knew in college had better moral compasses than the 25 to 40 year old women I know now. That’s really not supposed to be how it works.


  • So one thing I noticed is that women betraying their partner has become extremely normalized

    • Every “ethical non monogamous” relationship I’ve seen IRL is just a woman pressuring their long term monogamous partner into a situation where she has multiple partners and she’s struggling
    • “Monkey Branching”, where a woman starts dropping hints at one guy while still seeing another in hopes of making a seamless transition, is pretty accepted. Emotional affairs are only a thing for men apparently
    • While it’s always been acceptable to leave a guy if he can’t “provide” for you, it’s really fucking stupid in the context of modern feminism
    • Women who use OLD are often encouraged to have a “roster” of men, who they form a well beyond casual connection to.
    • There’s a large number of 30+ year old women breaking up with their long term partners to “find themselves”. I put that in quotations because this usually just involves a ton of casual sex. It’s basically the modern day equivalent of a guy leaving his wife for the secretary
    • There are a million different love triangles on TV. They are almost all two guys and a woman who is disrespectful of both. The guys get mad at each other and the women’s behavior is not portrayed as toxic.
    • Like 80 percent of holiday movies involve a woman leaving her fiance for a man she just met. This is always seen as romantic, instead of psychotic.

    In addition to all that, women are extremely reluctant to criticize other women. This stands even when another woman is behaving in an almost objectively toxic way. I moved post covid. The first year I witnessed a fuckton of toxic behavior, but when I tried to point it out I would get dirty glances from women. The second year there I ended up getting close to other women in those conversations who took it upon themselves to tell me in a smaller setting that they actually agreed with me, but they didn’t want to appear unsupportive.

    Whatever the intention there, the mentality enabled a subset of women to be shitty and probably convinced a lot of men that such behavior was something most women were okay with.


  • I honestly feel like that was a really cheap way of putting tension between Sisco and Picard.

    DS9 is a very different show than TNG. Picard and Sisco have an extremely different philosophy towards command. There are a ton of real ways that their values could come into conflict.

    Instead DS9 shows Sisco showing open bitterness and contempt because of “Picard Killed his wife”. Only he didn’t and was very obviously a glorified meat puppet during the entire ordeal.




  • So she’s actually been around for a long time. The only reason I know was because she was a minor figure in a major internet drama…

    Basically in 2014 there was something called GamerGate. It started off as anger over journalists being complete dickwads, and ended in being the blueprint neonazis used to radicalize people.

    While the tech journalists were “the good guys” they embodied the “you’re not wrong, just an asshole” thing 10000x. They would behave like high school bullies and then be super vindictive to anyone who was perceived as crossing them.

    During this time, Wu went to a tech conference with a LED miniskirt that she made. She posted it on the Internet and got a lot of comments. The vast majority of them were good. However, one person said something along the lines of “you look great. These tech conferences can be sexist, I hope you didn’t get body shamed”. She responded with something like “most people were chill. The only real dicks were the progressive ‘conformity non/conformity’ types”.

    This caused a massive shitstorm. Bad actors were able to use the very real argument that the same people calling them sexist were judging Wu so hard that it was visible in pictures". The journalists then attacked her and accused Wu of working with them. Wu apologized. She said she was Chinese and didn’t mean to get involved in US culture war discussions. However, she also refused to take a side because she didn’t want to get involved in US culture war discussions.

    As a result, she got put on a shit list by the media for a long time. That line about VICE NEWS considering outing her? A media organization linked to GamerGate called Gawker pioneered that tactic. They largely used it on us conservatives. Peter Thiel was the biggest example, most people outed were more or less nobodies. I’m guessing VICE had initial thoughts of outing her in the same way, and only later realizing that outing a woman for being a lesbian dating a minority in China is a very different ballgame than outing Timothy Geithner’s brother for being on Grindr.



  • Starfield claims that “there are over 1000 planets to explore”. If Gas Giants are included in that count despite being window dressing, then people have a right to be mad .

    In general the attitude towards people complaining about video games is super toxic. Publishers will often release games that are either hopelessly buggy, lacking several key features that were promised, or monetized to an extent that the game is essentially unplayable without spending a significant amount of money.

    Yet for some reason people love to shit on gamers for getting mad over this blatantly anti consumer behavior.





  • So it’s basically a tale of two seasons.

    Season 1, IMO, has the same flaws as discovery with more coherent writing. The plot jumps from point to point, the characters are underdeveloped, etc. It doesn’t have any “this is not only extremely stupid but feels like the writers didn’t actually bother watching star trek” moments, but it still isn’t good.

    Season 2 feels like a true modern tale on Trek. They manage to truly respect the old lore while bringing in new moral dilemmas. The characters are more developed and taken in interesting directions. They managed to sneak in a line that gives a decent explanation as to why things don’t 100 percent match up in canon. There’s also one episode that I would put up there as an all time great across every series.

    So I would say slog through Season 1 for the joy of watching Season 2




  • Posts like this confuse me.

    On the one hand, DS9 isn’t really known by people who don’t watch Star Trek. The chance of someone randomly running their mouth about it is infinitely lower than something like TNG or TOS.

    On the other hand I can’t see how anyone who watched DS9 can call Garek noble. One of the best episodes in the series revolves around him orchestrating a plot to trick the Romulans into entering the war by assassinating a Romulan senator. Not only does he show 0 hesitation, but he correctly points out that Sisco went to him precisely because that’s his bread and butter.



  • I mean let’s be real here they had every right to be concerned. TNG had serious problems in the beginning and had some pretty big flaws even as the show got going. Off the top of my head

    • The first few episodes (besides Q) were straight trash. Even if you take out the ample racism and sexism, they still kinda suck
    • Worf didn’t become a thing until Yar died. He was just kinda there. Also his hair looked ridiculous
    • Riker was half as sexy in terms of looks and a quarter as sexy in terms of personality
    • Picard was a dick. Not firm but fair. A straight up dick.
    • They straight up got rid of crusher for a season
    • The Ferengi were awful. Not like in a “lol what shenanigans is Quark up to now” but in a “TOS Gorn” way